Stereotype – how can you be beautiful if you’re anything but perfect?

URGHH straight away this title gets my back up. We are surrounded by stereotypes, we have to look a certain way to be beautiful, have a certain body shape to be hot and dress a certain way to be noticed… erm NO!!!

what the actual F!

Unfortunately the media today has us living in a world where so many of us believe that this is true. I mean if you don’t look a little bit like kin Kardashian or follow her every move then are you even worthwhile??

It literally drains me how women feel they have to inject their faces with crap, slap a ton of make up on, have fake hair, fake eyelashes and fake nails to even come close to feeling beautiful.

Ladies, each and every one of you is beautiful in your own unique way. Why on earth do you want to look like these people.

It saddens me greatly that this is how women feel they need to look. We all have our insecurities but the vast majority of them come from the media and social media.

Are you really under the illusion that these women really look like this? Have you never heard of Photoshop?

I remember an article came out a while back showing 2 pictures of Kim Kardashians ass, one was photoshopped to death, the other wasn’t. Guess what … the woman had cellulite just like everyone else, her bum wasn’t perfectly round, it had dimples in it, because that was the real truth. Not some made up photo that we are meant to believe and eventually fantasize about looking like.

You are perfect because you are you. You should be proud of who you are.

I want to promote body confidence amongst women, if you want to lose weight, then do it for you, not because you feel that the only way you will be noticed is if you’re a twig, likewise if you want to dye your hair, do it for you.

If you take one thing away from this post please let it be this

.. BE YOU.

Fx

Chunky but funky

So I’ve not posted in my blog for so long mainly because I’ve had a tough time with pregnancy and work but I’m finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel!

My second trimester saw a whirlwind of shit with work. I found out I was getting made redundant 😥 you can imagine right! The sheer terror was awful

How am I going to live?

How am I going to feed the baby?

I’m going to be an unemployed mum!!!

Seriously the list went on and on and eventually I made myself Ill with worry, but after numerous break downs, conversations with my partner, family and friends I finally managed to figure out my next move and realise that all was not lost.

I’m lucky, I have a fantastic partner and family that would support me through anything but still it was hard.

Anyway I’ve now entered my third trimester, so I’m on the home stretch and one thing I have learnt is that weight gain is inevitable.

Yes, unfortunately ladies, unless you have a personal trainer and chef on hand you are going to gain that weight that you were so desperate not to. Now although this grieves me in a way I can’t explain I’ve come to terms with it as I haven’t given up training. Just because I am gaining weight doesn’t mean I have to stop training. In fact I have been training really hard and I’ve loved it.

I swim 3 times a week and I do 2-3 home workouts a week and I feel better for it.

Guys I know how off putting it is when you step on the scales and see that they either haven’t gone down or, if like me you’re pregnant, the scales gave gone up, but please DONT GIVE UP.

Always remember that muscle weighs more than fat and it’s not about what the scales say, it’s about how you feel.

I may have gained 30lbs with this pregnancy but I feel great and I know that once madam pops out I will pop back into shape.

Hang in there ladies, keep going and encourage eachother.

It’s hard but what’s worth it won’t be easy and what’s easy won’t be worth it.

F x

Rest days! Don’t deny yourself

Hey there fellow bloggers,

I have to send my apologies as I haven’t posted anything for a while due to being unwell. Last week I hit exhaustion and had to visit the doctor, now normally I wouldn’t bother but being pregnant I thought I probably should go and get checked out. Anyway cut a long story short, the doctor told me that I do too much and with working 2 jobs my body was exhausted. I did ask the doctor about the amount of exercise I am doing and whether that would have an effect and although she said I needed to make sure I was giving my body the sufficient time to rest, she also said that exercise would only have positive benefits!!!!!!!

So last week I decided to take it easy, I had a week off the gym but still couldn’t fully rest as I am not wired like that! I have to be doing something, sitting at home all day “putting my feet up” gives me cabin fever. So I walked! I ended up walking 35 miles over the week and by the end of the week I felt better rested than I had in a long time.

The point of this post is to ensure you that having a rest day is ok and I would encourage it. Without resting, your muscles don’t have the time they need to recover, repair and get stronger. Also you need to rest so you can fully enjoy your workouts, if you are constantly exhausted from working out then you’re not going to work as hard, because you don’t have the energy, and it’s going to become a chore for you to do it rather than something you enjoy.

Resting doesn’t have to mean sitting on your ass and stuffing your face with cake! No, resting can mean taking a day off from the gym or running but still going on a long stroll. Your body will tell you when it needs time to rest and you need to LISTEN to it, otherwise you will burn yourself out.

Ever heard of the expression “you can’t burn the candle at both ends”, yeah well this also applies to working out. Be careful not to over do it, you’ll do yourself more harm than good if you don’t rest!

In the words of Beyonce “LISTEN”, you’re body loves you, love it back.

Take care guys

F x